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3 Crucial Laws Against Domestic Violence In India: Know Them, Protect Yourself

Widespread and rampant violence against women is one of the most pressing problems India struggles with as a society. It is estimated that around 37 percent of Indian women have experienced either physical or sexual violence in their lifetime.

In 2013 alone, there were nearly a hundred and twenty thousand reports of domestic violence against women, according to India’s National Crime Records Bureau.

Furthermore, a 2015 study conducted by the Planning Commission of India surmised that a whopping 84 percent of women have been abused in their homes at least once.

However, a majority of these women are far too afraid of social stigma to reveal that they are victims of abuse. This is due to women’s poor social standing in Indian society, where beating a woman for even the smallest things is seen as a justified act.

In turn, this leads to a lack of support, even from close friends, when domestic violence victims seek help in escaping their situation.

Thankfully, the Indian government has already put into place a number of rules and regulations that are designed to protect Indian women from domestic violence.

If the following laws are properly enforced, women in India may be able to hope for safer, more peaceful homes within the near future.

  1. The Indian Penal Code Amendment in 1983

A special section, numbered 498-A, that officially made domestic violence a criminal offense was added to the Indian Penal Code in 1983. This section of the law specifically covers cruelty towards married women by their husbands or their husbands’ families.

A helpful clause in this section allows women’s relatives to make the complaint for them. This is extremely beneficial in cases where the woman is too afraid to speak up for herself, for reasons such as she could get caught by her husband or simply cannot leave the house.

One kind of cruelty that can be punished is behavior that causes a woman’s death or serious injury, or pushes her to commit suicide. Another kind is the type of harassment relating to intimidating the woman or her relatives to give up her property.

Under the policy, acts of cruelty include, but are not limited to, the following:

  • physical abuse;
  • mental torture through threats to her or her loved ones (such as children);
  • denying the woman food;
  • locking her in or out of the house as punishment; and
  • demanding perverse sexual acts against the woman’s will.

Convicted offenders will be charged with up to three years of prison, as well as a hefty fine.

  1. The 2005 Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act

Created in 2005 and enacted over a year later, the Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act is exactly what the title proclaims.

This is the first law in India to specifically acknowledge every woman’s right to be in a home without violence. In fact, it was seen as a major step forward in securing women’s rights and more effective protection.

It is a long and comprehensive law that details several important policies and procedures meant to help women.

First, it gives a specific definition of domestic violence: actual or threats of physical, mental, emotional, sexual, or verbal abuse, as well as harassment regarding dowry or property.

Women are given the right to seek protection against such acts, and their relatives can file a complaint for them against husbands who break the law.

Second, a woman’s right to reside in their “matrimonial household” is clearly recognized. She cannot be evicted from it as she rightfully shares it with her husband.

If she is evicted, she has the right to seek monetary compensation and safe shelter, as well as free legal and medical aid.

Lastly, both NGOs and divisions of the Indian Government – such as the National Commission for Women – took the initiative to organize awareness seminars that could be easily attended by women who are affected by this act, e.g., women in high risk areas.

Violators of this law will either be mandated to compensate the woman financially, or will be served a restraining order to keep them away from the complainant.

  1. The 2013 Criminal Law Amendment

As a response to the requests made by the Justice Verma Committee, a small commission named after and headed by one of India’s most highly regarded jurists, a lengthy list of amendments to the Indian Penal Code, Code of Criminal Procedure, and the Indian Evidence Act were introduced in this 2013 act.

The aim of the amendment was to provide harsher and swifter punishment for those criminals who committed abuse against women.

Details regarding sexual assault and rape were clarified and added onto. For instance, “rape” was given a better and more exhaustive legal definition, to include non-consensual penetration using non-sexual objects, as well as non-penetrative sexual acts.

Penalties for offenses such as rape, assault, and sexual harassment were increased.

In particular, heavier sentences were declared for rapists, even including the death sentence for particularly disturbing cases, such as gang rape where the victim was left in a vegetative state after the crime.

New offenses that are punishable by law were introduced by the amendment as well. These include, but are not limited to:

  • acid attacks (the act of throwing acid upon a woman with the intention of disfiguring, maiming, or outright killing her);
  • stalking;
  • voyeurism (spying with prurient or indecent interest); and
  • publicly and forcefully disrobing a woman

However, despite the commission’s recommendations, the amendment failed to address the issue of marital rape. This exception basically assumes that marriage automatically means the woman will always consent to her husband’s sexual desires.

This ridiculous notion implies that rape cannot happen within a marriage, when in fact it does, and even happens quite frequently to Indian women.

Crime Against Women Cells

This is an initiative of the Indian government to better help female victims of domestic abuse. In every district’s police station, a Crime Against Women (CAW) cell was put in place.

Women suffering from domestic violence may approach these specialized help desks for direct assistance from the police, whether to file an official complaint or follow up on one. Each one is headed by an assistant commissioner.

This program begun in 2010, as the Indian government’s answer to steadily growing numbers of abuse that targeted women.

In Summary

While the Indian government has made significant efforts in reducing the largely unchecked epidemic of violence against women, there is still a long way to go.

Merely passing laws meant to protect women from abuse is obviously not enough to achieve success. Even after the 2013 amendment, horrific crimes such as gang rapes continue to happen, and happen publicly.

The numbers have even continued to rise, though this may be because of increased awareness among women, resulting in greater reporting of domestic violence overall.

A necessary step in moving forward lies in changing the overall mindset of society towards women. There needs to be more education on how to treat women as equals, instead of as lesser beings that deserve to be punished for the tiniest mistakes.

If the Indian government can combine proper enforcement of their existing laws with thoughtful gender education programs, we could be looking at a safer and brighter future for Indian women in the next few decades.

About the Author:

Jon works in marketing team at Loch Employment Law – The Employment Law Lawyers in the UK. He is fond of reading, writing & meeting people. In a former life, Jon worked as a content specialist and has good knowledge about employment policies & law. You can catch up with Jon at Loch Employment Law London office for any advice related to employment laws.

Naaree Interviews Dr Bani Anand, Founder and MD, Hairline International

At the helm of Bangalore-based Hairline International is a dynamic young woman who has charted the growth of the company from the word go – Dr Bani Anand.

 A field where hitherto only dermatologists and cosmetologists were being consulted for hair problems, she has created Hairline to be a holistic treatment center with a totally scientific approach.

For Hairline, bringing in international hair treatments much before they are envisaged in the Indian market has become second nature. And in just 2.5 years since its inception, today Hairline boasts of a turnover of nearly Rs 52 million with just 6 centers in Bangalore. caught up with Dr. Bani Anand, Founder and MD, Hairline International, to learn what drives her and what lessons she has for other entrepreneurs.

What inspired to become an entrepreneur? Did you always love it or was it something you got into?

Well, I have been groomed by an entrepreneur, which is to say my mother. So, it was but natural to take it through in the same space. I guess early learnings and good mentoring has contributed to me becoming an entrepreneur.

I think as you groom early you eventually do get into something that inspires you and follow through with it.

When do you know that it is no longer just an idea in your mind, and that you can really turn it into a lucrative business?

I think it is the lack of availability of these services and resources in the country in comparison to what is available on international platforms besides the development of innovation combined with the understanding of customer needs.

There is a certain trending rhythm we follow which comes from customer needs and that feeds the gut of the business model.

What inspired you to start out on your own or with your partners? What learning lessons can you share from your startup experience?

Well, I started out on my own primarily on the basis of market and customer understanding through debt funding started one hair and skin clinic and in a span of seven years have built seven dermatology clinics in Bangalore with a pathology lab where the blood work gets done.

We also have a research lab, research institute and an ethics committee today to support commerce and research and medical publication. Passion for the subject was my inspiration and customer understanding was my forte. Merged the two and well I had a plan.

Some of the learnings are persistent, never give up on your dreams no matter how difficult it gets, change is inevitable internally and externally, adaptation to change is a must. Keep learning and growing that’s the only way forward.

Learn from your mistakes you are bound to make them.  Continuous learning and upgradation is key to any business with an eye for innovation so keep that eye open always. For all you know you could be leading the way.

Have faith and build strong teams so that they can drive your dreams with complete dedication. Have fun along the way it’s important to reenergise yourself and your teams.

Show your teams your passion and they will drive the business for you. I think this kind of sums up the thought.

What are some challenges that you faced initially when you started out? Do you have some examples to share and advice to entrepreneurs on overcoming them?

Well working with doctors and teams was a challenge in the beginning with everyone looking in a different direction. In essence team building, putting a vision together with so many mindsets and obstacles was a very big challenge.

But time, conviction, logic, training, mentoring all help you eventually in overcoming these challenges.

Sometimes you build your dream as you go along. It comes to you bit by bit which we call evolution. That evolution is an outcome of the dynamics of a business and probably is the best way to go forward. There is always some form of chaos but your effort is to minimise it.

As advice, I would say be cautious and yet follow your instinct. Do the math and see if it adds up from a business point of view. Dream of building something that can actually create real value in real time. Think ahead of time that’s that only way forward. Drive your team to think on those lines.

Understand that problem solving is a daily task you need to do so there’s no running away from it. Take your decisions calmly and not in haste because some of the best decisions made are made with a calm mind.

What are all the things that an entrepreneur needs to keep in mind? I.e. apart from your great idea, what do you need to be armed with?

I think patience, dedication, long working hours, debt-raising ability, ability to sell your vision and raise money for growth purposes, execution ability on the ground and a strong arm to market those services.

Which is why I will reiterate that it’s important to create something that is real by that I mean a need that fulfils a real need or needs to come (pre-empt).

Do women entrepreneurs find it tougher to get funding for businesses? If yes, why do you think that is?

No, I don’t think so. If you are a visionary with a good lucrative idea to sell all you need to do is add more people based on what will help you make a stronger team and you should be on your way to roll out your project.

The idea, the team and the profits generally are the bigger goals when it comes to raising funds. Debt funding is always available, government institutions support, angel investors, private equities, venture capitalists etc are some of those ways of raising monies.

Is it beneficial to have a mentor when you’re starting out on your own? What does a mentor bring to the table?

Well mentoring is always good, but I think it becomes more crucial when you are at a juncture of raising funds.

Experience will always teach you something and especially from someone capable of making that difference and building something of real value.

So guidance = growth generally.

How did you recruit your first team? How difficult was it to get people on board during the initial stages?

Newspaper advertisements were the way to go back then. It wasn’t really difficult.

What are 3 key things that you have learned as an entrepreneur?

Be patient while building your business, build it with passion and follow through with perseverance and innovation. The rest will follow.

What would you describe as your biggest moments of success in your business?

I think our biggest moments of success are yet to come I think. It gives me complete joy when I am able to bring in bring in new edge treatments for hair and skin which drive in exceptional results from time to time.

Recently we brought in skin and hair DNA testing which enables customisation of supplements, topicals, and therapies based on your genetic markers.

Bettering our results is always something that keeps us going. Launching that research institute, doing incredible research on environmental pollutants and its impact on hair and skin.

Publishing our work in medical journals, national and international awards, getting better results with time. I think these are some of those things that kind of give you those joys really.

For us, research drives our innovation and we are committed to advancing the cause of the same in the time to come.


Naaree Interviews Jillian Haslam, Motivational Speaker And Author

Never forget the past and the future will never forget you! ~ Jillian Haslam

Jillian Haslam is a qualified speaking coach with distinction and has had a 20-year career in banking, including working with executives at board level. Barclays, Bank of America, and the Royal Bank of Scotland are some of the names on her impressive list of clients.

Born and raised in abject poverty in Calcutta – Jillian is a truly inspirational and professional keynote speaker. She uses her experience and motivational stories to inspire others to face their fears.

With her motivational words and her warmth, she engages and empathises with you helping you to wake up, inspire you to do better and be more confident. caught up with motivational speaker and author, Jillian Haslam, to find out her inspiring story and her goals for the future. 

Tell us about your dream job as a child.

Since I was a little girl, I wanted nothing more than to be able to reach out to hundreds of people in order to eliminate the sadness and the despair that is caused by abject poverty. I grew up facing it and I lived by the Eli Khamarov quote that “Poverty is like punishment for a crime that you didn’t commit.”

I grew up not being able to smile and was asked many a time, even by my bosses if I ever did smile but I had an impossible dream (coming from an extremely deprived background) and not knowing how I was going to accomplish that dream was a worry that never ever left me.

It was impossible to smile but today, I do nothing but smile all the time, only because I now have six teams of people who work to change lives every single day (three huge food banks for the poor and the disabled, six study centres for street children, a team that work for women in need, the youth, the disabled and for people with serious illnesses.

I also speak at very many schools and universities talking to people on the power of developing as “The Irrepressible Mind” and asking them not to forget that there are people who need them.

I deliver training and speeches to corporates as well, sharing the drive and the ambition I had and what it took to get through a 20 odd year career in banking, never losing sight of the goal and the objective I had in mind ever since I was a child.

Why did you go into business in the first place?

Dreams are not fulfilled through magic and people who have money are certainly not going to be there to fulfill them for you. Luck does not exist as Henry Ford said the harder you work, the luckier you get!

So, if I was to fulfill my own dreams, I had to become my own creator and to

(a) work very hard and

(b) I had to generate enough income to be able to support my cause and my dreams without having to ask anyone for monetary help.

As Oprah Winfrey says “The only way to find true happiness is to find out what you are good at and to then turn that into a service for others.” I didn’t know that she had said this at the time but I certainly believe in it 100% today. It’s exactly what I did!!

What or who has been your greatest influence in business and why?

Oprah Winfrey and Estee Lauder only because they had the same vision, the same goal, and the same objectives in mind, to start a business with one purpose only and that is to give back to humanity!

What is the best and worst decision you have ever made?

The best decision I have every made is to empower people with confidence and recognition. I have had people who couldn’t speak a word of English with a desire to succeed but without the ability. Empowering them has been my greatest asset. As Jack Welch said, “Give them confidence and they will act.”

The worst decision I have ever made is to trust people unconditionally. You can care and you can help but to trust someone needs time and I have paid a very heavy price on many occasions by deciding to trust someone based on words, sweet talk and on face value. I have now learned from my mistakes but the hard way, unfortunately.

What do you think is the most significant barrier to women in business?

Skills. I mentor many women to help them start up their own businesses. I have also delivered a speech titled “A dose of reality” and I did this because many seem to have a dream and believe that they can roll out of bed and start a business without the required skill set. That is one of the reasons why 93% of new businesses fail.

They get so involved in social media, trying to make a name for themselves, doing the admin side of things but losing focus of what truly needs to be done i.e. to learn how to deliver or sell their products/services effectively, marketing a product or service or understanding how to build a brand (and I don’t mean logos, websites, and letterheads) it takes much more than that but sadly our comfort zones and Facebook likes keep us complacent and hence totally in denial sometimes.

What’s the best advice you have received in business?

To train and to get mentored by well-established people in business. To get educated before you venture out and to understand that your talent may get you a step through the front door but it’s only hard work, relentless commitment, and knowledge that can keep you there.

My next book is titled “The Irrepressible Mind.” It will help many, but mainly entrepreneurs to understand these facts and to understand the true meaning of what it takes never to give up in business.

What do you do for fun?

Spend time with the people I love (those in desperate need since they need people like us the most)! That is what I see as fun and it’s with these people that I really and truly come to life.

I always use this quote that came from Bill Gates, “I believe I was a beggar by the corner whom no one gave a dime but today, I read and write and speak because someone took the time.”

I want to be able to show them that I made the time to be there for them, just as someone made the time to be there for me. In my case these people were my parents, my matrons in boarding school, my Principal, people who were poorer than poor who came to our aid and mainly a Teacher named Mrs. Barbara Raha who taught me that everything on the outside meant nothing i.e. torn shoes, torn uniforms, scruffy hair, no make-up etc., etc.

What mattered was what was going on, on the inside and how we could look for ways and means to develop that side of us. It worked like magic for me at least!

What did you most fear in the early days of your business?

That I would have to let thousands of people down and that I wouldn’t be able to find a way to help them. It was more than just a fear; it was heartbreaking to have to think of not being able to reach them.

They say when you desire something to an extent where your very being is affected, you accomplish it but you have to start with wanting something more for others than you want for yourself.

What’s next for you and your business?

To expand into other parts of the world, to reach people far and wide in order to demonstrate to them the power being public speaking and finding your voice, to get the movie made (that is based on my memoir, Indian English).

Hollywood has already picked it up and I have managed to reach thousands of children by way of the story itself. It is now a personal goal to get the movie made and to try and work towards creating a world without poverty.

In the words of Muhammad Yunus, “We need to strive to eliminate poverty because once it is gone, we all need to build museums to display its horrors to future generations. They will wonder why poverty continued so long in human society – how a few people could live in luxury while billions dwelt in misery, deprivation and despair.”

This is my wildest dream and my greatest ambition and it is always the next step in everything I do. Nothing means more to me than giving back in thought, word or deed.

If you could tell your younger self something what would you say?

Never forget the past and the future will never forget you!

Connect with Jillian Haslam at @JillianHaslam

Women Entrepreneurs, Here’s How To Get Investors To Treat You Right

In all the coverage about sexual harassment in the startup ecosystem, I think this is one of the most honest accounts from a woman’s viewpoint that I have read. I love Perri Chase’s honesty and candor about her own experience with a potential investor.

She openly admits that she’s “not the first or only woman who has ever used being a woman to get time with a man” and that this is where we, as women, need to take more responsibility for getting our lines crossed.

I have personally seen how women flock to powerful men in the startup ecosystem, knowing full well that there are no free lunches. Many of these women are very willing to put out, to get that all-important introduction to a potential investor.

The problem is that these willing women end up creating an untenable situation for women who are not interested in being sexually propositioned.

In that sense, we need to admit that, by tolerating and giving into an investor’s sexual advances, we are part of creating and enabling that exploitative culture.

Also, as Perri notes, different women have different abuse thresholds. While those who have never been abused in their lives might take offense at the slightest hint of impropriety, others who have a higher abuse threshold may not find a similar come-on offensive.

Part of the problem, she notes, is that “in an ecosystem where socializing and happy hours are a big way to meet or get to know investors, there are no real clear lines about what is personal and what is professional.”

Looking for a mentor? Here are some ways that you can learn to navigate the tricky world of meeting colleagues and investors at work and outside of it.

  1. Take responsibility for what you create

Like Perri, I believe in taking radical personal responsibility for my life.

This means I buy into the concept that I alone am responsible for whatever I create in my life. Blaming others is a waste of time and gets you nowhere, except deeper into the victim mentality.

Like her, I also believe that I am powerless to change anyone but myself, and that I alone control the choices I make. Her statements that resonate most with me are:

“We can talk about changing men until we are blue in the face, but the only person who is ever truly responsible for my safety is me… It’s not pointing the finger of blame at him. It’s finding the places where you have control and taking it back.”

That does not mean that men don’t need to learn how to behave better. They very much do! But until then, take responsibility for your own safety.

  1. Have a value proposition ready

Don’t assume that people will have your best interests at heart. Most people go through life looking out only for themselves and their loved ones. Very few people are truly altruistic in their intentions.

The truth is that most people only care for their own interests. Especially if you’re a stranger to them. Approach them keeping that in mind.

All relationships involve give and take. So if you’re hoping that someone powerful will mentor you or introduce you to their contacts, you’d better have a value proposition for them too.

This applies as much to women investors and mentors, as it does to men. No one is going to be motivated to help you out if they see no benefit in it for themselves. A mentee must be able to add some value to a mentor’s life, too.

Whether this involves giving them a larger share of your stock or helping them deal with some aspect of their business that they are having problems with, it’s up to you to do your homework and find out where their interests lie or what they need help with, and then offer to help them out with it.

In other words, if you want something from someone, make them an offer they can’t refuse (preferably one that doesn’t involve sexual favours or violence).

  1. Teach people how to treat you

I believe that we teach people how to treat us. This is one of the biggest issues we need to address if we are to create a safer environment for women in business.

We women need to get out of the victim mindset and take our power back. It’s up to us to start setting very clear boundaries on the sort of behavior we won’t tolerate. And it’s a good idea to do that even before you meet up with a man.

Then, if he loses interest when you’ve set clear boundaries, at least you’ll know that your business was never what interested him in the first place.

If you’ve already met up and want to get out of it, all you have to say is, “I’m sorry, I don’t think we’re on the same page here,” or “I think I misunderstood what this meeting was about,” and part on friendly terms (or not, depending on how he takes rejection).

Should someone constantly disrespect your boundaries and keep making unwanted sexual advances, don’t feel guilty about it. It’s not your fault that he’s a creep. You have every reason to report him to the authorities.

But, I believe that if we learn to be more assertive, are willing to take responsibility for our own expectations, and walk away at the first sign of trouble, there’ll be no need for hurt feelings and accusations.

  1. Trust your instincts

If you feel there’s something off, cancel the meeting or leave if you’re already there. Trust your gut.

Never second-guess yourself or put yourself in a vulnerable position where the lines can get blurry. If you know that drinking alcohol clouds your judgment, avoid drinks altogether or sip a mocktail at a business meeting.

We can all teach men to treat us with respect… as human beings who are not interested in being pawed or propositioned when we approach them for advice, mentorship or funding.

Let’s start by taking responsibility for our own expectations and actions so that we can create a better environment for all involved.

What did you think of these tips? Did you find them useful or were you offended? Let me know at @PriyaFlorence

 © Priya Florence Shah is an author, CEO of Blog Brandz, and publisher of

Top 10 Tips For Dressing For Success

A great product will not get sold if it doesn’t come well packaged. You might have all the soft skills, brilliance and academic qualifications necessary to land the job, but there are chances that someone else would be selected because you weren’t dressed right.

The sad part is the one who was selected might not be as competent as you. It matters what you are wearing to the interview, how you look and present yourself.

No, we’re not talking about your looks. That’s not something you can change. But yes, you can always dress to impress.

According to a survey, 37% recruiters don’t hire a candidate because she wasn’t well dressed. Further, 65% hiring managers believe that dressing becomes a crucial factor when it comes to selecting between two candidates with similar proficiency.

So, what does it take to dress right and impress your interviewers? It doesn’t need to be an expensive task. In most cases, you certainly cannot afford designer clothes when you’re yet to land the job!

Consider these 10 tips for dressing for success in the workplace.

  1. Solid colors that aren’t distracting

When you’re sitting in an interview, you’d want the interviewers to focus on what you have to say and on your personality rather than the pink paisley shirt you’re wearing.

Floral and busy patterns are not recommended for an interview or, for that matter, any kind of client meeting or any job that needs you to speak to people.

Instead, stick to solid colors that aren’t too loud but go well with your personality and looks. A bright red might look great on any woman, but it’s distracting for the interviewer. You might be taken to be too aggressive for the job. Try the standard blues.

Black and white is a standard choice when it comes to professional attire. A dark blue is also an option you can trust. This makes the interviewer take you as a trustworthy, secure, controlled and calm individual.

Grey too can work well, as it represents sophistication and confidence. It really depends on what kind of interview you’re going for, and what is expected from your role.

  1. Invest in a bespoke suit

It won’t be a one-time investment. A well-fitting and tailored suit is always the best choice when it comes to professional attire. However, going for those ready to wear suits might not be a good idea.

Make sure that the dress perfects fits your form – the shoulder pads ending at the shoulders, the sleeves ending where the wrist meets the thumb, the jacket fitting close to your body and such things.

Women should avoid suit pants that pucker and are tight in the front. A tailor-made bespoke suit is the best option because it adds confidence and elegance to your form.

  1. Smart casual sophistication

Not all jobs require you to go for a suit, especially if you are trying something in the creative field. Smart casuals, in this case, can easily outperform a strict formal outfit.

For women, it’s easier to get away with decent skirts or trousers but it is necessary to avoid wearing costume jewelry or fabrics that are too flashy.

  1. Ink, hair, and piercings

Today, nearly 40% of people in the age group of 19 and 29 have a tattoos, studs or piercings. But some employers, especially more conservative ones, can hold an unfavorable view of your ink or piercing.

Your selection will greatly depend on the kind of industry you are working in or looking to work in and the company policies on tattoos and piercings. Or it could just depend on the individual interviewer’s preference.

If you already have visible tattoos that cannot be hidden, compensate with your shining personality. For facial piercings, it is always safer to take them out and cover up the damage, until you’re aware of how they’re perceived in your new workplace.

With your hair, it is always recommended to keep it clean and neat. At work, it’s always better to pin up or pin back unruly locks than letting them distract you from the task at hand.

  1. Dress for the job you want

As Jennifer Aniston’s boss says in the movie, Picture Perfect, “Dress for the job you want, not the job you have.” The best way to find a successful dress code is to imitate your boss. If your boss is a jeans and polo t-shirt guy, you can try the same.

That way, you can hope to be in the same league and the same form of mind, at least when it comes to attire. When you’re wearing something that your boss likes, you could be perceived as trustworthy and friendly.

  1. Overdress, don’t under-dress

Plan your outfit like you have a very important meeting, regardless of your schedule for the day.

This makes sure you’re prepared for anything. The worst thing that can happen is that you are the best-dressed person at the meeting!

However, if you’re just wearing regular clothes that cannot be made presentable in a pinch, you may be in trouble.

  1. Quality over quantity

Invest in a few good quality outfits, as it will not only add value to your investment in the long run but will also make you look and seem more elegant and stylish.

Quality outfits are worth the cost, rather than fast fashion and cheap throwaway clothes.

  1. Comfort rules

When all is said and done, it is also necessary that you’re comfortable in the clothes you wear. If you’re not comfortable, you’ll be more focused on keeping your form than on the interview or with your client.

Well-fitting lingerie is the start of being comfortable. Make sure you wear comfortable lingerie so you’re not constantly fidgeting with your bra straps. Measure yourself correctly and buy the best fitting brassieres and panties, so that your mind is not distracted all day by poorly-fitting underwear.

If you’re not a suit person, you don’t need to wear them. There are so much more options for women in India than just Western formals. A formal saree or salwar kameez is just as suitable in the Indian environment if comfort is paramount.

In some cases, confidence and charm can prevail over your choice of dressing. That also doesn’t mean that you can go right out of bed to the office! Don’t go for something outlandish if it isn’t you, but don’t be too formless in your dressing either.

  1. The devil is in the details

Things like a polished shoe, wrinkle-free clothes, ironed pleats, and hair-free jackets (especially if you have pets at home) matter. The devil is in the details and many interviewers and clients will notice if you’re not well turned out.

  1. Be you

At the end of the day, it is important that you don’t lose focus on yourself while trying to decide on a dress code. In the world of fashion, rules can be broken and personality is ultimately all about your sense of style. After all, you don’t want to look boring and you do want to get noticed!

How to Use Social Media for Your Job Search

Were you ever asked to attach a link to your social media profiles on your resume? If not, this doesn’t mean that the interviewer didn’t look you up on Facebook or Twitter when they received your resume.

Sure, this might sound a bit intimidating, especially if you consider your social media profile personal, but these days it’s more likely than not that recruiters scan your social media profile before calling you in for an interview.

Why is this so? Because the interviewers believe that your social media profile is able to tell them more about you than both your cover letter and the CV. And it actually can.

For example, if you claim to be serious and collected, but your Facebook account is filled with inappropriate jokes and photos of you drinking, this will very likely affect their impression of you, and not in a good way.

The same happens if you badmouth your previous employers on social media or do other things that could compromise the image you’re trying to project.

While you might feel a bit uneasy about this, this is important to know. Making your social media profile a tool as powerful as your resume and cover letter could greatly aid you in your job search.

So how can you use social media to aid your job search?

  1. Tailor your profile.

Just like a nasty social media profile could affect the interviewers’ decision to hire you, a good one could benefit you a lot.

Work hard to make yourself presentable: delete all the things that could compromise you, and instead focus on adding some information about yourself, your hobbies, interests, and skills.

Of course, pay special attention to your LinkedIn profile. Don’t settle for adding the recent job history only, even if you consider it the most important.

Instead, fill in all the information pertaining to your job and educational history over the past 15 to 20 years (and do this in as much detail as possible).

  1. Network.

Let’s assume you want to contact someone or impress a specific person. Years ago it would be so hard to do: even contacting this person (especially if they are very important) could take a lot of time and yield few results.

However, now, when most important people have their own social media profiles, it has become much easier. For example, you can now easily contact even the CEO of a company on Twitter, simply replying to their Tweet or mentioning them in yours.

Of course, if you want them to notice you, your tweet needs to be well-crafted and showcase exactly why they should hire you. For some inspiring examples, check out these 140-character resumes designed to wow potential employers on Twitter.

Remember, though, that’s not the only way you can benefit from social media. Social networks also allow you to establish contacts with other important people, who can teach you something, assist you with something, and even help you land a dream job someday.

Join groups on Facebook and LinkedIn, participate in group discussions on LinkedIn and Twitter, create and publish your own blog related to your niche – and you’ll be able to make new important business connections and get noticed.

  1. Use a blog to land a job.

This might seem like an option for only bloggers, but actually, it’s not.

When you create a blog related to a certain niche and fill it with unique and valuable information, you can become a niche expert (of course, if you do this right and invest some time in communication and promotion).

This way you’ll already look impressive and professional enough to the recruiters. If you don’t know anything about blogging, subscribe to this free email course on how to create, publish and promote your own business blog.

You might be surprised by how many recruiters actually pay attention to expert bloggers. Even mentioning a company’s name in one of your posts could benefit you when applying for a certain position there.

Moreover, the best way to make an impression on a company you would like to work at is to communicate with them (on their blog, for example).

You can comment on some articles or posts, voicing your opinion. Just make sure that you have a back link to your blog posted in your signature so it’s easy for them to find it.

  1. Use social media to check out job offers.

Many of us have companies we dream of working in. However, they aren’t always looking for new employees at the point when you receive an opportunity to change your job.

There are many advantages to using social media for your job search. One of the easiest ways to find out about new positions open in the company is to monitor their social media posts and subscribe to their newsletter, if they have one.

Sure, most companies update such information on their websites too, but you’ll probably notice it much quicker when they post about in on Facebook on Twitter.

  1. Learn about the company’s culture.

Sure, social media allows recruiters to find out more about you – but at the same time, they allow you to do the same thing – learn about the company you want to work for.

Of course, the best way to do so is not to look over their official pages on LinkedIn and Twitter quickly, but to monitor them for a while, paying attention to details of their corporate culture and work style.

Sometimes people are so focused on the job’s benefits that they forget that corporate culture matters a lot too. You can be a consummate professional and still find the company’s culture unsuitable, so it’s better to study this as early as possible.

Moreover, following a certain company on social media will allow you to learn more about their values and working style. Without a doubt, demonstrating such knowledge to the interviewer could benefit you a lot during your interview, even helping to land the job.

  1. Use LinkedIn to conduct job searches.

Technically, any social media can be used for job searches. LinkedIn, however, is specifically tailored to that task, allowing you to highlight your skills, get recommendations from your colleagues, and even look for a job secretly, without having to post your resume on job sites.

The only thing you need to know is how to fill in your profile properly, highlighting all your virtues and professional experience – and then you can start networking or looking for a job.

You could also consider upgrading to a Premium Career LinkedIn profile for a few months. According to LinkedIn, candidates with Premium Career get hired an average of 2X as fast. It also lets you move to the top of recruiters’ applicant lists and provides other benefits that can give you an edge in your job search.

As you can see, just like a resume writing service can help you create a stunning resume, there are many benefits of using social media for job search.

Social media can help you make your job search even more effective and land you your dream job more easily. So don’t miss out on the opportunity and give your social media profiles a makeover right now.

Author Bio:

Charles is a career mentor, motivational speaker & human resources consultant with over 10 years of experience in HR sector. Charles is a lead expert at Professional Resume Solutions. Apart from career mentoring, he loves photography and football. Find him on Linkedin, Twitter, Facebook & Google+.

What Cosmetic Surgery Can Do For You (And What It Can’t)

It’s important for any individual considering cosmetic surgery to research what exactly cosmetic surgery can and can’t do for them.

Many television shows and advertisements set unrealistic expectations of the results for cosmetic surgery while downplaying the risks and recovery time involved with serious medical procedures. Cosmetic surgery is no immediate fix or easy route to an attractive body that you’re happy with.

Cosmetic surgery has to the potential to positively affect how individuals relate to the people and the world around them, but it’s a significant and largely permanent decision to make for your body.

In a time where many people want to fit into societies defined norms cosmetic surgery has become more popular, and people are disheartened by their efforts to attain the ideal look.

A large role for medical practitioners is setting expectations and defining what cosmetic surgery can do for them, and what it can’t.

What Cosmetic Surgery CAN DO

Direct benefits of cosmetic surgery such as improving appearance are just one of many benefits operations can provide; there are also indirect health benefits and emotional benefits for those whose physical features are tied up with their emotional happiness or wellbeing.

Cosmetic surgery is perfect for fine-tuning a flawed body part, and it has been discussed in Daniel Hamermesh’s book Beauty Pays: Why Attractive People Are More Successful that more attractive individuals enjoy more professional and personal opportunities.

Individuals who conduct the right research, contact a registered and experienced medical practitioner can achieve great results that can enhance their look without any issues. Even if aesthetic improvement is the driving force behind the decision to have cosmetic surgery, some may realise that there are many benefits beyond this fact.

There are often psychological or emotional reasons for cosmetic surgery beyond wishing to reduce the appearance of ageing or achieve their desired look, and so many of the benefits that come from surgery are psychological or emotional too.

Often the emotional benefits far outweigh the physical transformation itself as newfound confidence affects all aspects of their life giving them the drive and ability to fulfil their professional and personal aspirations.

Improvements to an individual’s actual and perceived appearance translate into increased self-confidence for most people, which means people see a reduction in social anxiety after their surgery and become more extroverted.

Individuals often say that ‘they feel better about themselves’, which is often the case when a physical manifestation of their insecurities is removed. The removal of unsightly birthmarks, a hooked nose or other negatively defining features that have existed since birth can give them a new lease on life.

Some plastic surgery procedures can improve your physical health as well as your looks. For example, rhinoplasty can also be done to correct breathing problems get the added benefit of not snoring as much or at all after recovery is complete.

A breast reduction may ease back pain and correct back problems due to having less strain on your shoulders and back from the weight of proportionate breasts.

Liposuction has an added benefit for people post-operation as the lost weight enables them to improve blood pressure and cholesterol levels easier.

Patients joints may also benefit because they will not have as much pressure on them, easing joint pain and stiffness.

Many patients seeking to lose weight through surgical intervention find that it gives the inspiration and second chance that they needed to keep the weight down after their cosmetic surgery.

What Cosmetic Surgery CAN’T DO

It’s important for surgery candidates and medical practitioners to ensure that they’re undergoing a procedure for the right reasons.

Some people’s emotions have an enormous effect on how they think they look. Individuals who are depressed, extremely self-critical, or have a distorted view of their bodies may believe that changing their looks will solve all their problems.

Candidates who undergo cosmetic surgery to satisfy someone other than themselves whether it be a partner, family member or society perceived norms have proven to be unsatisfied. This also stands true for those with unrealistic expectations.

Almost all young adults and adults are self-conscious about their bodies, but cosmetic surgery is not the answer for a lot of people as they become more comfortable with their bodies as they either mature or change as they go through different stages in their life.

Body dysmorphic is a mental health disorder when someone is obsessed with a minor physical flaw and seeks cosmetic surgery to fix it. It accounts for up to 12% of individuals who get cosmetic surgery.

There are many aspects of our lives over which we have little control that people seek to influence through other means such as changing their bodies. Here is a short list of things that cosmetic surgery cannot do.

Cosmetic Surgery CAN’T 

  • Be a shortcut to a better sex life
  • Replace your face with a celebrity’s
  • Fix a relationship by pleasing a partner – Cosmetic surgery is about patients, not their partners
  • Change your appearance with zero risk – Every surgery comes with risk
  • Make you feel better after a loss or to get through a crisis – cosmetic surgery carries its own psychological challenges
  • Stop the ageing process
  • Replace exercise and a healthy lifestyle

An emotional time is the worst to undergo a cosmetic operation, and It’s not valuable to use surgical intervention to fix what can be corrected in a nonsurgical manner. Working out the emotional problem with the help of a trained therapist is better.

What Makes A Good Candidate For Cosmetic Surgery?

Your unique body characteristics should factor into your decision whether to have a cosmetic procedure.

The reasons behind an individual wanting to change their body surgically should be sound otherwise they will not reap the value of the final product as it will not meet their expectation or needs.

Candidates who are inappropriate for surgery include:

  • Candidates in crisis whose goals that cannot be achieved through an appearance change
  • Candidates with unrealistic expectations
  • Impossible-to-please candidates
  • Candidates who are obsessed with a very minor defect
  • Candidates with mental illness

Although some candidates have their mind set on certain procedures they may not fill out all the requirements and may benefit from a less drastic procedure to achieve the same result.

Some women benefit from eyebrow waxing as much as a brow lift to change the perceived expression of their face.


  • Consider and research the procedures available before a consultation
  • Seek advice from your GP ensure that you are a suitable candidate interpret any advertising claims.
  • Have a consultation with an appropriately registered cosmetic surgeon.
  • If you are considering a cosmetic procedure overseas, confirm that the doctor is properly registered in that country.
  • Ensure that you fully understand the expected outcome and potential complications
  • Establish the included/excluded costs of your procedure
  • Avoid being tempted by the offer of discounted prices
  • Take a week to a fortnight cooling-off period between the consultation and surgery

Author Bio:

Dr Robert Goldman, B.Sc (hons), MB.Ch.B, F.R.A.C.S., performs cosmetic breast surgery and abdominal surgery, those areas that are part of his specialty of general breast and abdominal surgery. He received advanced training in both General and Breast Surgery at Royal Perth Hospital WA, Sir Charles Gairdner Hospital and Fremantle Hospital WA and was awarded his Fellowship of the Royal Australasian College of Surgeons in 1997.

5 Steps To Help Someone With Depression

All of your relationships, from acquaintances to romances, from friendship to lovers require mutual respect, honesty, support, trust, fairness, good communication, and reciprocity.

However, once in a lifetime your friend might suddenly clam up on you though you text, chat and speak to each other every day, you might suspect that there is something on her mind. But when you call her again, your phone call is straightly switched to voicemail.

This might be because your friend is in depression and she doesn’t want to hang out with you. You definitely want to cheer her up so that you can hang out with her. If you’re wondering what steps you can take to light up her world, this article is for you.

Depression is one of the most common mental disorders today. According to the World Health Organization (WHO), 350 million people worldwide suffer from depression. It is a leading cause of disability.

Under stress from issues such as unemployment, the economy tanking and relationship issues, a growing number of people are facing stressors that intensify the likelihood of depression and other mental disorders.

The symptoms of depression include low mood, fatigue, loss of appetite, sleep apnea, physical complaints, loss of interest in previous hobbies, loss of hope. Here are 5 steps that will show you how to help a loved one experiencing depression.

  1. Encourage Them To Seek Help

The first and foremost thing when you find out that your friend is depressed is to encourage her to seek help. It might be from her mom, dad, relatives, doctor or a professional mental health consultant.

Once she is depressed, she might feel like there is no hope for anything and she has very little energy to get help.

  • Be honest and help your friend admit that she is depressed.
  • Offer to take her to a practitioner or a mental health professional.
  • Let her be aware of the seriousness of depression as a treatable ailment.

If she has already been treated but there is no improvement, ask her to see her doctor as soon as possible to evaluate the situation and change her medication.

  1. Be There For Them

It seems obvious that since your friend is depressed, you should be there for her. But how do you do this when she doesn’t initiate conversations or refuses to respond to phone calls or text messages?

Those who suffer from depression usually lack initiative, and they might end up isolating themselves and ruminating over their issues.

Offer to take her for a walk in a beautiful place, such as a park, or to a funny movie so that she can start to feel better.

  1. Listen Patiently

Try to listen rather than offer advice, and be as patient as you can rather than pushy.

Initially, your friend might not listen to you and not take your opinion into consideration, or she might think she is able to conquer her issues by herself.

Try not to dismiss her hopelessness. Instead, you can explain to her that these feelings are temporary and can be treated.

  1. Provide Support

A friend in need is a friend indeed. You can support your friend with some concrete tasks that she doesn’t seem to complete by herself.

Helping with her daily tasks might strengthen your friendship and help mitigate her problems.

You could bring her favorite food or play her favorite games with her or simply offer to help her with housework such as laundry or cooking.

  1. Be Prepared For The Worst

If your friend mentions self-harm, death or even worse, suicide, you should directly ask her whether she feels suicidal.

Whether she does or not, remind her about how important she is and how much people care about her, and that she requires immediate professional help.

Never let the burden of having an anxious and depressed friend be only yours. Ensure that you inform somebody else (her parent or her partner or her doctor) about the problems that you are facing.

Depression is a mental disorder that anyone can face these days regardless of age, gender, and income level. However the risk for women, previously married, unemployed, or those who are unable to work seems to be higher.

There are limits to what a friend can do and how involved one can be. Nonetheless, supporting a friend with serious depression all the way to a cure can mean the difference between life and death.

How Female Job Seekers Are Unintentionally Self-Sabotaging Their Job Hunt

Discussing differences in job choice, performance, and income between the sexes is like crossing a minefield. This article is not intended to be the last word on these issues, nor is it a primer on the topic.

Rather, we’ll try to pinpoint a few potential choices some female job seekers might be making. Choices, conscious or unconscious, that can become obstacles on the road to landing a new job.

There are no quick and easy fixes for issues this complex. However, there are some moves you can make — starting with writing a solid resume and optimizing how you send your application through to figuring out what to do and say in a job interview.

So, here are three major mistakes with tips on how you can avoid them.

1. Giving up too soon

Last year, ran an interesting experiment. They created a voice modulator and made some men sound like women and some women sound like men. Then, they used it during trial interviews.

According to’s own data, women do worse in technical interviews than men. The hypothesis of the experiment was that this gap in interview performance stems from a pro-male bias. Thus, removing gender-relevant information and tweaking people’s voices should result in no difference in performance.

The surprising and troubling finding was that women did worse in interviews nonetheless.

However, additional analyses revealed that the performance gap could be explained by different dropout rates among women and men.

As it turned out, women were seven times more likely to leave interviewing than men.

Apparently, women didn’t stick around long enough to hit a home run, as they were more likely to quit using the website (i.e., doing interviews) after an interview went bad.

It seems that women get discouraged from continuing with the process once they’ve faced rejection.

Sure, this study was done with a specific sample of people, in a field dominated by men. But, if there is any industry dependent on easily tested skills, it’s computer science.

What’s more, these findings converge with numerous studies done on stereotypes, attrition, confidence, and self-image.

How to cope: According to statistics from the field of HR and recruitment rejection is an inherent part of any job hunt. Most job seekers, no matter their gender, will get rejected on most occasions.

Large companies can receive up to 250 resumes in response to a job ad. The number of applicants who get invited to job interviews is a single digit number.

Tip: Brace yourself, you will be turned down most of the time — it’s an inherent part of the job hunt. Move on to the next offer and continue sending out resumes.

Pro tip: Sometimes you might not get any feedback or reply from the recruiter. Don’t assume it’s because you were rejected. Most recruiters actually expect to get thank-you notes, so it’s your chance to seize initiative and reach out to them.

This could be a great opportunity to remind them you’ve got what it takes. Just make sure you read up on these tips on how to follow up with recruiters.

2. Underrating your ability

Women’s status in the workplace is complicated. What’s more, there’s a body of research in the social sciences suggesting a confidence gap.

And a confidence gap isn’t constructive when you’re competing for a job. What’s more, it’s not just about past achievement. It’s also about how you write it up on your resume.

A candidate who’s followed best practice in resume writing and perfected their job interview pitch comes across as above average. Even if this is not the case performance-wise.

You need to keep up with what the competition is doing. Those who haven’t followed job market trends stand out — for all the wrong reasons.

No one likes a liar and recruiters are not gullible people. We’re not encouraging you to pack your resume full of power buzzwords and corporatese braggadocio.

However, being overcautious about your skills is never a good idea. No one likes a braggart, but no one pays attention to church mice either.

Tip: Focusing solely on your image is a double-edged sword. On the one hand, pushing more swagger into your resume makes sense. On the other hand, there is some data suggesting that women are penalized for being too direct or “unfeminine.”

The solution: the middle path. Stick to facts about your career and attributes — share your skills, experience, and success on your resume by being specific and providing examples.

3. Underappreciating your market value

According to’s report on women, work, and the state of wage inequality, women tend to ask for lower salaries than men.

Yes, some employers undervalue female candidates and might offer them lower salaries. Fixing the wage gap requires more serious measures and is beyond the means of a single individual.

However, as an individual applicant, you don’t want to self-sabotage the salary negotiations.

Tip: Before walking into an interview (or perhaps even before applying), thoroughly research the industry to figure out the running rates for the position in question. That way you’ll know what people are paid, and you will feel more confident when telling the recruiter how much you want to earn.

Note: Be careful though. There is another lesson to be learned here. There is a growing body of evidence suggesting that when it comes to millennials the wage gap is shrinking, and perhaps even reversing.

While surprising, it makes sense when you consider the following fact — female students have been outperforming males at every stage of their educations, including university. And education is a pretty good predictor of professional success and earnings.’s own research also suggests that women with less than five years of experience in tech were asking for, and getting, better salaries than their male peers.

Now, it might be the case that senior female job candidates have seen lower salaries early on in their careers, compounding over time. Millennials, on the other hand, might be pushing for parity or they don’t differ in their expectations.

Since the research comes from the tech industry, another explanation could be that companies are trying to diversify their workplace, putting female developers in high demand. That would allow junior female candidates to take on attractive, well-compensated positions.

Pro tip: No matter what the case may be, it’s best to investigate salaries in your field rather than upping your salary expectations by a few percentage points by default. That way, you won’t overshoot (which can sabotage an otherwise successful recruitment process), and you won’t depreciate your market value at the same time.

Some extra fixes

Here’s a quick recap. On average, female job seekers:

  • Might be somewhat more likely to be discouraged by negative outcomes.
  • Are either less confident or less likely to overrate their competencies and qualifications.
  • Find it more difficult to ask for appropriate compensation.

Getting your resume just right for each potential employer is the first and most important step of any job hunt.

Let’s see what we can do about the above-mentioned challenges to leverage your resume to your advantage.

Tip: One thing female job hunters might want to do is to focus on skills.

There are several great guides on how to find skills in job ads, how to put them on your resume, and how to find out what skills are valued across the board.

These may not be game-changers, but will help you avoid some pitfalls:

  • You’ll provide specific, verifiable facts.
  • You won’t have to rely on impressions but will shift the focus to what is.
  • You won’t question yourself and you’ll avoid underestimating your talent.

First off, you need to tailor your resume to the recruiter’s needs. To do this, you’ll need to carefully read the job ad, mark any skill keywords or phrases implying traits.

Once you’ve got a list of requirements, see how you compare. If you can tick all of them off, you’re a perfect match.

If you lack some or are uncertain about whether you live up to the employer’s expectations, don’t get discouraged. If it’s a skill or trait that isn’t crucial for excelling at the job, you might still want to apply.

Since women tend to take up offers only when they are confident about their chances, you might want to loosen up your approach a bit. This is controversial advice — or at least advice not all recruiters would be happy about.

Pay attention to the skills section on your resume.

Be specific about what you can do. If you know how to make pivot tables, run and write macros, and visualize data in Excel, write that. Don’t assume that merely listing “Excel” among your skills is enough for the recruiter to assume you know your way around this piece of software.

The bottom line

Mentioning you’re good at something may prove challenging at first. Bookmark this article. Re-read our tips when you’re in doubt. Follow the links, they’ll explain in detail what you need to know.

The take-home message for you is: Yes, you will get rejected. Pretty much all of us will. Yes, you can show off your skills in a reasonable manner without coming across as boastful. And yes, you can ask for appropriate compensation.

5 Strategies To Become A Successful Female Leader

Since the beginning of mankind, the difference between the two sexes has always been highlighted in different manners. If in the past women were extremely disadvantaged compared men, the present time shows us how the inequality between sexes does no longer exist. At least…not in the way it was before.

International woman’s day (8th March) is a great celebration that aims to deliver one important message: women need to be praised and treated the same as men. Moreover, it signifies the continuous need of rebalancing the conditions and rights that women have over the professional and business environment.

During the last several years, women have started to gain much more respect in the business marketplace. There are plenty of women that have made it big into the entrepreneurial world, many women that lead hundreds of men, and many women that are much better and much more skilled than the majority of men.

Now…when we talk about success and leadership, we can never assess these concepts by appealing to the sexes. These are two complex things that require skills and knowledge more than anything else. Of course, women might encounter different and more delicate challenges on their road towards success.

During today’s post, we’re going to take a look at what exactly makes a successful female leader. If you’re a woman looking for some insights that ought to give you inspiration and motivation, you’ve found the right resource.

Let’s get straight to the point.

1. Figure Out What Success Means to You

Man or woman, the path towards success starts with awareness. You need to become aware of what success means to you. Every person has different standards and expectations. For some, success means fortune, power, and legacy.

For others, success means being able to live a decent professional life that comes with the benefits of having more free time to spend with their loved ones.

What YOU need to figure out is your definition of success. No one will be able to help you except yourself. This is a process of self-awareness and is very much linked to your emotional intelligence aptitudes.

Once you become aware of what makes you itch, you’ll have much more control over your life, you’ll be able to feel inspired and motivated, and you’ll never feel lost. That is of course because you’ve already chosen your path and built your roadmap.

2. Be Extremely Confident in Your Mindset and Skills

We all develop our mindsets throughout our lives. Your mindset is basically the mechanism that makes you see the world the way you do right now. Every person has a different mindset and different values.

Great leaders are always confident that their mindset will lead them on the right path. That confidence makes them great persons to be around and to learn from. Moreover, if you’ve already taken the time and you’ve hustled to build your skills, you need to be very proud of yourself – but not in an exaggerated way.

A woman that shows this type of confidence will always make more impact in the workplace. Be aware of the fact that being in a leadership position also makes you a model for the people that are under you.

3. Pay Attention to Your Performance

A good leader is always paying attention to what’s working and what’s not. This doesn’t refer only to the professional environment, but also to the personal performance metrics.

Rachel Sklar is the founder of The and Change the Ratio, two successful businesses that many men would dream to have. When asked about what makes a great leader, she gave a very good insight:

“I would say that leadership is something that is learned. It can be learned and should be learned. Leadership is something you’re always honing and learning and reflecting to see ways you could have been better at it. Anyone who thinks they’re a natural leader is probably horrible to work with.”

If leadership is learning, then it automatically means that it’ll lead to a lot of failures. Many things will go wrong, and many decisions might not be the most appropriate. If you learn how to assess your performance, you’ll be able to slowly create a better overall performance for yourself and your team.

4. Cultivate Relationships, Always

Get out there and start building connections! One of the biggest traits that most successful people have is that they’re very resourceful. That resourcefulness comes from the relationship that they have built throughout time. Every person has a hidden talent that maybe one day will be very useful to your condition and needs.

Don’t think just about you though, as you need to deliver value to the other peer too. A constructive relationship is based on trust and help. You get the chance to help others become the best version of themselves by giving powerful advice and maybe even some of your resources.

If you don’t really enjoy doing this, then maybe leadership isn’t for you. The simple fact that you’re willing to sacrifice more and give more to others shows a strong indicator that you might just have what it takes. The only thing that’s left until you become a successful leader and not just a leader: lots of work, many fails, patience, and persistence.

5. Listen, Listen, Listen

Emily Shane, founder of SuperiorPapers has a very strong advice for all the women that are struggling to be successful at work:

“Being a woman and a leader of a group of men all in the same time is always difficult. In order to make it easier, I always sit back and listen. I carefully listen what everyone has to say. I listen to their problems, I listen to their joys, and I listen to everything they want me to listen. In the end, I come up with calculated responses based on what I’ve actually listened.”

As a matter of fact, she is extremely right about everything she said! You’d be surprised how hard listening actually is when you do it right. Most people aren’t really listening. They either judge internally, either develop self-talks, or they simply ignore the speaker because they’re too focused on their own issues.

Leadership never works this way. If you’re not able to listen to your colleagues and subalterns, your efficiency will never shine. A great communication between the employee and the higher rank is always necessary in order to ensure a productive environment and effective results for your company.


Success is not about results. It’s all about the journey. Becoming the best version of yourself will allow you to overstep your most daunting limitations and create a better future for yourself. You’ll be able to seize great opportunities, and eventually, enjoy a lifestyle that’s full of fulfillment.

Once you are able to show lots of aptitudes and skills, the fact that you’re a woman will only make you shine more. Yes, women that are great leaders are always better viewed than men that do the same thing. So never discourage yourself, and always do your best to do more and better!

Author Bio:

Joan Selby is a former ESL teacher and a content marketer at BestEssays. She also runs her own blog about social media and writing tips. Joan is a Creative Writing graduate and fancy shoelover. A writer by day and reader by night, giving creative touch to everything. Connect with her on Twitter and Facebook