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EFT And Emotional Healing: Embracing Your Inner Critic

By Stacey Curnow

EFT is a needle-free form of acupuncture that is based on new discoveries regarding the connection between your body’s subtle energies, your emotions, and your health. When I say “needle-free” I mean that anyone can do EFT anywhere. You just need a basic knowledge of acupuncture pressure points, a few spare fingers, and a quiet place.

The inner critic

There are EFT practitioners who can lead you through the method, but you can learn the simple process of tapping on your own, too. (In fact, you can learn the basic method for free here)

First you identify your issue – what your ego or inner critic says that has you racked with fear or self-doubt – and determine your level of stress related to it on a scale of 1-10. Then you proceed through a sequence of tapping while you repeat to yourself, “Even though I have this (name the issue), I deeply and completely accept myself”.

At the time I was trying to decide whether or not to pay over $15,000 for a year of business coaching. I had never spent that much money for anything other than formal education. I tried to make the case that the investment in my business and myself was as needed now as it was when I went to school for nursing and midwifery, but still I wavered.

The coach I was considering had a deadline by which you had to commit and as it approached I became more and more anxious about my ability to make the right decision to work with her or not.

I couldn’t figure out if I was just terrified about spending the money or ambivalent about working with this particular coach. All I knew was that I was in the grips of my inner critic, who said that I was crazy to think about investing that much money in myself.

So I identified my issue and my stress level (an “eight”) and began tapping. I said:

Even though I’m terrified of spending $15,000 on myself for business coaching…

Even though I’m not sure I want to work with this particular business coach…

Even though I’m afraid my business won’t be successful if I don’t get coaching…

Even though I’m worried that I won’t know what to do by the deadline…

I deeply and completely accept myself.

At the start of this process I felt very emotional, and tears flowed freely. After I went through a few rounds of tapping I checked back in with my level of stress and I was surprised to note that I felt lighter – more like a 4 or 5. I was encouraged by this shift and started introducing positive affirmations:

I’ve felt fear and self-doubt before and I’ve always made it through.

Even when I made mistakes, they were never irreparable and I always learned from them.

I trust that I will know the right decision for me and I will make it in the perfect time.

I checked back in with my stress level again and almost laughed when I realized that it had gone to zero. Even though I still didn’t know what I was going to do, I completely trusted that I would know at the perfect time. And I did!

Looking back I see that I was experiencing a serious lack of faith in myself. I had fallen into the false thinking that I should know what to do – right then – and when I didn’t I felt despondent and disconsolate. But I soon realized that faith in myself is not something I ever have (or don’t have), but something I do.

I realize now that when I feel fear or self-doubt I simply need to reach for connection with my deepest, wisest self. For me this means first acknowledging that everything is always changing and that I can move from a stuck place and flow freely to where I am supposed to be. There are many ways of getting to that place, but EFT is a great tool for attaining that connection.

And so, when your ego or inner critic tells you that you’re not good enough or that you’re on the verge of making some catastrophic mistake, or when you’re worried to death about the welfare of a loved one, you can learn to listen to the concerns that are being voiced by the inner critic. You can make an agreement that will quell them and help you feel peaceful no matter what.

I was lucky: my issue cleared quite quickly with EFT. But I understand that some issues may be more complicated and require more repetitions. With that in mind, here are some other possible scripts that may be helpful while tapping:

Even though I don’t know what to do, I choose to accept myself anyway.

Even though I’m afraid I’ll make a mistake, I choose to trust the Universe.

Even though I’m not sure that EFT will help me, I’m open to a new idea.

If an issue seems particularly intractable, you may be attached to it because it has certain benefits for you, i.e. attracts sympathy or attention, is a good excuse for not doing something else, or has become part of your identity. If so, try:

Even though I am afraid to release this issue, I deeply and completely accept myself and this issue.

Do several rounds, tapping on each of the tapping points, until you feel a shift in your emotions. When any doubt or concern has dropped to a 5 or below (on the 0-10 scale), do at least one round of tapping on each of the points, using the following affirmations (or make up your own):

What if this is a great way to focus my energy?

I’m open to a powerful new way to succeed.

I choose to trust that the Universe wants my best life.

I know I have the ability to heal this issue.

Please be patient with yourself and with the process. I hope you’ll keep going until you feel open and excited, and until you honestly trust that you always have the power within you, right now, to make friends with your inner critic – that you always have the power to create clarity, peace and happiness for yourself.

Reprinted with permission from the author, Stacey Curnow. If you like this article and you want to give birth to a life you love, sign up to receiver her FREE eZine, Special Delivery at

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