“Do not wish to be anything but what you are, and try to be that perfectly.” ~ St. Francis of de Sales
In this book I have given you countless tools and techniques to get you to realize that you can be happy now, with a little practice. But I can’t just leave it without giving you my very favorite tips for living an extraordinary life. They’re really simple. In fact, I think you’ll be surprised at how simple.
- BE A CLASS ACT AND CONDUCT YOURSELF WITH INTEGRITY
Give others the benefit of the doubt, especially in an argument. It doesn’t cost you a thing. Just remember: you can be right or you can be happy.
• Be honest — people can usually tell when you’re lying.
• Don’t let petty things upset you; it’s not worth your energy.
• Don’t whine or complain because negativity robs you of energy, and it’s just not worth it!
• Be consistent with your morals and values; hypocrites do not lead extraordinary lives.
- CHOOSE TO BE AROUND PEOPLE YOU ADMIRE
Eliminate negative people and those that don’t support you. You don’t need the constant reminder of “how much life sucks,” because that simply isn’t true.
• Although your friends don’t define who you are as a person, we tend to strive to be like our friends. Therefore, if you want to be successful, hang around successful people.
- ACT WITH INTENTION
Be authentic in your interactions with people; actively listen, sustain judgment until after the person has finished, say what you mean and mean what you say. People can tell when you’re lying or being insincere, so don’t insult them by being fake during your interaction with them.
- ACT AS IF THIS IS “IT”
Don’t wait to be happy or satisfied in life until (insert goal, possession, experience here). Act as if you already love your life, since this moment right now, is all you have. If you wait until success, marriage, children, or money to be happy, you may never be happy and you miss out on life.
Don’t wait for a special occasion to light those candles. Don’t wait until you have your dream house to create a home that reflects you. Do it now because THIS is it! Smile, laugh and be grateful for what you already have.
- PUT YOURSELF BACK ON YOUR LIST
Remind yourself that you’re worth the time and effort. Make yourself a priority: exercise, eat well, get enough sleep, and spend some “me” time. Take pleasure in doing things you really enjoy and take pride in your appearance, your home, and your car. You’re worth it.
You’ll feel better and amazing things will start to happen for you when you remember how great you are. Strive for success and all that success brings, but don’t get too caught up in it. It’s okay to want nice things. Just remember that things don’t make you happy.
Happiness comes from inside so don’t buy into the illusion that a nicer car will mean you’re happier. Set goals and aim high but don’t get so caught up in reaching those goals that you forget about now; remember to still live like this is “it!”
- LISTEN TO YOUR INTUITION AND DON’T SECOND-GUESS YOUR DECISIONS
You know what’s best for you. If you want to be successful, believe you can and do what it takes to succeed. Take note of that negative mind chatter and remind yourself that you are a very successful, talented and intelligent woman who can make decisions for herself. That’s it.
Within this tiny book, is my official happiness formula. This is how I get through tough things in my life, deal with people who annoy me and manage the nasty voice in my head telling me I suck and that I don’t deserve happiness.
This is how I managed to go from depressed, anxious and angry, to happy for no reason, no matter what is going on around me. With everything I have shared, you can create your own happiness formula… and be happy now, for no reason, no matter what.
© 2011 Kimberly Englot. All Rights Reserved.
This article is an excerpt from ‘The Now of Happiness: Your Official Happiness Formula‘
Kimberly Englot is the author of ‘The Now of Happiness: Your Official Happiness Formula’ and founder of The Center for Authentic Self Development. She teaches women to say ‘Yes to Happiness’ and ‘No’ to excuses. Purchase your copy or learn more about ‘The Now of Happiness‘ book.