Women when stressed tend to reach out to other women for emotional support and express their feelings. Women like to talk about their feelings and tell their stories, usually to other women.
Suzanne Kramss has handled stress over her life in these ways.
In the hormone laden years, women turn to their best friends when stressed – salt, sugar, and lots of chocolate. Sadly, food can easily become the source of stress eating. Friends are the next outlet.
We women tend not talk to our mothers when we are young, but as we get older then we cry the blues to them endlessly. We also talk to hair dressers and manicurists. You just have to be careful when your hair dresser has a bad day because you may end up looking like you are ready for the Westminster Dog show.
Last of all – we talk to our husbands. That’s usually when their eyes glaze over and the only words out of their mouth become – “Yes Honey, of course I’m still listening.”
So if not food, friends, family, getting fancied up, we tend to turn to tuning out to soft music, chic flicks (the sappier the better), long baths, and looking through photo albums. And if you are blessed with a man with great hands – a massage will work miracles.
Suzanne is a writer, story teller, and mentor for the mentally ill.
My wife, Lyn, in her younger days called friends or worked out a lot exercising. Today as a gifted energy healer she gains stress relief by looking and shopping on Ebay, watches mysteries or old movies, and sleeps to release stress and regain her energy.
As a healer she holds a tight focus to assist clients move into and through their deepest painful emotional patterns that sabotage their lives. Client’s energies collect in her body and she calls on me on a regular basis to assist her with an energetic body work – Bowen Therapy – to release stress and stuck energy.
Another woman friend, Joanna, a retired CEO in the past talked about her feelings with friends she felt safe with. She also found meditation useful. Today she allows herself to feel and stay present with whatever arises within her until the stress and tension resolves on its own without her making anything happen.
Top 5 Stress Management Tips for Women:
Develop a Support System
Review and keep in mind what best brings you stress relief so you know what to do when stress builds up.
Cultivate Positive Friendships
Have friends you trust and feel safe with. Look for people who can provide you with a positive perspective, who stay calm under pressure, and who have emotional balance.
Talk to Friends
Talk to your friends and other women about your stressful situations. Choose people who will keep what you tell them confidential.
Learn to Set Personal Boundaries and Say “No”
When we want to say “No” and we say “Yes” to our friends when they want us to do something, we create stress for ourselves. Codependents find it challenging to say “No” because they either remain unaware of what they want or fear saying “No” and being rejected.
Saying “No” to be true to ourselves requires courage and practice. The only way to build up the strength to say “No” to take care of ourselves is by doing it over and over until it becomes easier.
Learn to Nurture and Self-Sooth
Begin to develop the ability to recognize and accept your need to look after yourself. Only when we re-energize ourselves can we truly nurture others from our overflow.
Eat some of your favorite food, listen to calming or uplifting music, go for a walk in nature, read a book, take a hot bubble bath with Epsom salts added, or anything that nourishes you.
When will you seek stress management for the stress relief you need before you become depleted, worn out, and develop serious health challenges?
Michael David Lawrience is the author of Emotional Health: The Secret for Freedom from Drama, Trauma & Pain coming to Amazon as a softcover in mid-June 2011. Michael is a certified Residential Coach III with over 13 years’ experience teaching teen’s self-awareness, self-esteem, and self-reliance. He has over 35 years’ experience as a holistic health practitioner with a B.A in Sacred Healing and has been a certified Bowenwork Practitioner since 2005. His niche is emotional health with extensive personal experience related to codependency recovery, strengthening self-esteem, healing the inner child, stress management, and meditation which he has practiced for over 40 years. Email for FREE chapter 1 plus 20 question quiz to evaluate your level of Well Being.