For many of us, the very first lessons we ever learned about love were from our mothers. Today’s Dating Dish brings to you: “The Best Dating Advice I Ever Got From Mom.”
Before the Internet…
Before you ever got your hands on a self-help book…
Before Oprah or Dr. Phil…
there was MOM.
That’s right – for many of us, the very first lessons we ever learned about love were from our mothers.
And since today is Mother’s Day, I thought it would be fun to devote today’s DISH to these lessons.
So I’m going to let the collective wisdom of mothers everywhere do the talking!
Here are some insights I received from readers – both women AND men. I hope you enjoy them!
THE BEST DATING ADVICE I EVER GOT FROM MY MOM
“Date a man who worships you.”
-Lesley, Bergen Co., NJ
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“My mother told me that dating was a numbers game. If I go up to 100 girls and ask them out, 99 might say no, but one will say yes and it’s all worth it.”
-Mike Port Washington, NY
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“My Mom used to say ‘don’t date anyone you wouldn’t consider marrying.’ In other words, be careful who you agree to go on a date with, you might just end up falling for him! She also said ‘Don’t settle. You will have to kiss a lot of frogs in order to find your prince!’ (Though I’m not sure she was encouraging all the kissing!) When I had relationships that ended, she encouraged me to see the positive side and know that I was that much closer to finding my prince!
There’s just one thing… I married my prince, but nobody told me I’d have to wash his clothes and listen to his snoring all night!! UGGHH!!”
– Liz Durham, NC
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“My mom said, ‘Don’t use sex to get love, because some men will use love to get sex.’
‘If you still have doubts a year into a relationship, its a sign of things to come.’ (In other words, cut your losses and get out.)
Most of all, ‘the purpose of dating (just dating) is to find out what you DON’T want in a guy. Your taste becomes more defined as you swim along in the dating pool.'”
-Amy Chantilly, VA
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“My mom has given me tons of great advice over the years. I have to say that there is one I like the best though.
She told me that she (playfully) reminded my dad everyday how lucky he was to have her for his wife. Also she took a few minutes to make sure she looked nice when he got home from work.
The power a positive attitude, as well as a little self-promotion, goes a long way!”
-Karyn, Avon Lake, OH * * * * * *
“If you think you are going to be able to change your significant other, change your own mindset. (Ladies, you’ll be lucky if you can just get him to clip his nails or buy new underwear to replace the ones with holes in it.)
Sometimes you need to be single to remind yourself of who you are.
Nothing is easy in life. If you aren’t willing to work at a relationship, you will never have one that lasts.
If it’s so hard that you need couples counseling while still dating, don’t plan on this going the distance.
You’re not always going to be right. But if you’re always wrong, you’re either with the wrong person or you need to understand the basic concepts of life.
Figure out if it’s Love or Lust. If you two can’t stay together without sex for an extended period of time (several months) it’s probably lust.
Don’t combine bank accounts or purchase a home together until you are actually married. Make sure if you’re been dating a while, that the two of you know where you are in the relationship. Are you thinking marriage and they’re thinking next great vacation (or vice versa)?
Communication is important because if you don’t communicate, you may get annoyed that your significant other isn’t reading your thoughts and that’s just plain crazy.”
-Jason, Washington, DC * * * * * *
“My Mom always told me that I should picky, but not too picky.”
– Julie New York, NY
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“My mother told me dating was stressful and to make sure I wore deodorant.”
-John Los Angeles, CA
* * * * * * * * * * * * If YOUR mom wasn’t one to give advice…
…or if what she told you (bless her heart) didn’t exactly transform you into the confident, savvy dater you hoped you’d become…
All the answers you need to help you achieve a happy, healthy, fulfilling relationship are in my eBook “Dating Without Drama!” Here are just some of the secrets you’ll learn inside:
* How to break the vicious cycle of “W’s”: Wishing he’d ask for your number, Waiting for him to call, Wondering where the relationship is going, and Worrying he’ll never commit
* How to date confidently without being controlled by your emotions
* Why men pull away as things start to get serious…and what YOU can do about it
* Effective communication tools for a long-term relationship
* And so much more!
Oh- and before I go, I just HAVE to share with you this inspiring SUCCESS STORY:
I love your ‘Dating without Drama’ book – I purchased it last month and read it BEFORE, AFTER and BETWEEN dates! It has helped me tremendously and the most important part is the empowerment I have now on choosing WHO I really want to give my time to. Not in an arrogant way, just a calm, relaxed, ‘let’s see how it goes’ kind of attitude! My Drama today? I HAVE MET AN ABSOLUTELY MAGNETIC MAN and it keeps getting better! All the while I am keeping my head out of it (he can probably get any gal he chooses) and listening to my heart and asking the question ‘is he right for ME?’
I MUST BE DOING SOMETHING RIGHT because he keeps calling, sending me texts (I answer back only, I don’t care for texting that much) and the attraction for each other is going up!
Who knows where this will go but it is fun and feels good and if it poofs into thin air I still have found this new way of operating on the dating scene and I have YOU to thank!
If YOU’RE ready to become a SUCCESS STORY like Tanya, you’re just one step away from discovering how to do it!
Thanks for DISHING and have a Happy Mother’s Day! I’ll write you again soon.
Your friend, Paige
PS – Thanks so much to all of today’s contributors and especially their very wise MOMS!
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