If you want to find a relationship that has the potential to develop into something serious and fulfilling, you must screen the guys you meet and only date the ones who are Boyfriend Material, notes Paige Parker in her Dating Dish.
This morning I was ironing my shirt and had CNN on in the background…
This was pre-coffee, mind you, so I wasn’t actually processing any of the information coming from the TV. (I am officially a zombie until I’ve downed a latte!)
Then suddenly, a story caught my attention.
Apparently, a recent scientific study has proven that when a woman meets a man, she is subconsciously able to tell whether he has the potential to be a long-term mate or just a fling…
(get this!)
…just by looking at his face!
I was like “Whaaa???” as I grabbed my TiVo remote and rewound to watch the segment again.
That’s right – the results of this study show that when a woman sees a man with a strong, masculine look (square jaw, angular facial features), she finds him attractive and knows he’d be good for a little somethin’-somethin’….
But when she sees a man with softer, more rounded facial features, she instinctively knows that he would make a better, more nurturing husband and father.
Now far be it from ME to challenge science, but all I’ve gotta say is…
Puh-lease!
I mean, if that were truly a realistic option – if we actually could tell which guys have the potential for long-term commitment just from a quick scan of their cheekbones – think of all the time and energy we women could be saving!
We’d know that the hot bartender with the chiseled chin who’s asking for our number is going to be more trouble than he’s worth…
We’d stop desperately trying to “change” a player into a boyfriend…
And we’d start accepting dates exclusively from guys whose online profiles showcase a photo of their big, chubby, round face.
But let’s get real…
It takes a lot more than a quick glance to size up whether a guy has the qualities of a keeper.
And I’m going to tell you exactly how to do it in just a sec…
“But, Paige,” you might be saying, “What if I don’t want to assess whether a guy has long-term potential when we first start dating? That takes all the fun and mystery out of things! Can’t I just go with the flow and hope for the best?”
Um, sure, if the idea of wasting years of your life on a man who never wants to commit to you on the level that you expected (and doesn’t change his mind on the issue like you thought he would) sounds appealing, then go for it! Sounds like the ignorance-is-bliss route is for you.
If not, then there’s a much simpler way.
If you want to find a relationship that has the potential to develop into something serious and fulfilling, you must screen the guys you meet and only date the ones who are Boyfriend Material.
But how will you know when you’ve met a guy who’s Boyfriend Material (without having to peer through his stubble to get a good look at his jaw line)?
Easy. Just refer to the checklist in my ebook “Dating Without Drama!”
If you haven’t gotten your copy, here’s a Sneak Peek of the checklist…
Is He Boyfriend Material? A Checklist of Signs:
__ Passion: Does he have goals and dreams for his future? Is he committed to pursuing them?
__ Good Health & Habits: Does he take good care of himself (eat well, go to the gym, etc.)? Does he have any habits that are deal- breakers (Drug or alcohol abuse, smoking)?
__ Balanced Emotional State: Does he seem stable? (Beware of overly jaded types, those with excessive ’emotional baggage,’ or men with rage issues or out-of-control mood swings.)
__ Treats You Well: Does he treat you with respect and consideration? How do you feel when you’re around him – happy, relaxed, safe? If he makes you feel uneasy, insecure, controlled, or threatened, he is definitely not boyfriend material.
__ Treats Others Well: Is he friendly with his doorman? Is he kind to waitresses and generous with tips? If he’s pleasant with other people it’s a good sign that he’s not just putting on an act for you.
__ Healthy Relationship Track Record: What is his dating history like? Is he a serial monogamist or the king of one-night stands? If he hasn’t dated much (or at all), that could also be a red flag. If you know other women he’s dated in the past, do they have good things to say about him?
__ Good Relationship With His Family: Is he close with his family? Does he treat his parents with respect? Is he friendly with his siblings? These are all good signs of a quality man. However….Beware of the Mama’s Boy! A man who hasn’t “cut the cord” with his mother is nothing but trouble – either he’ll expect you to wait on him and make his bed OR you’ll spend your life trying to live up to the perfect image of Mommy. Either way, it’s not good – so get out now and save yourself for a man who will make you the #1 woman in his life!
__ Maturity Level: Does he follow through on his responsibilities? If he blows off a commitment to stay home and play Xbox, he may not be ready to meet the obligations of an adult relationship.
Get the REST of the “Boyfriend Material” Checklist as well as dozens of other tools for dating success in “Reflections and Revelations: A Dater’s Self-Discovery Guide” – it’s my bonus gift to you when you buy my Dating Without Drama ebook!
Just follow this link to download your copy of “Dating Without Drama ” and your three complimentary bonuses…
…and in just minutes you’ll be on your way to learning how to make the love life you’ve always dreamed of a reality!
Thanks for Dishing! I’ll write again soon.
Your friend, Paige
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