×

Naaree Talk 5: Seeta And Geeta

28Jan2019
Naaree Talk 5: Seeta And Geeta

Most Indian women of my era will remember an old Hindi movie called ‘Seeta Aur Geeta’, starring Hema Malini in a double role as a pair of twins with very different personalities – one who is literally a Devi (who caters to everyone else’s needs), and the other a diva.

To many Indian women of that time, the roles were metaphors for the women who reside inside all of us, Devi and Diva.

These are the roles we enact in different contexts of our lives; they dictate the behaviours that rule our relationships with the significant people in our life:

  • The meek and ever-suffering Seeta – pandering to husband, in-laws and families.
  • The feisty Geeta – the woman who knows how she wants to be treated and demands respect.

While these two are extremes, our true selves lie somewhere in between. We are often confused about the right way to act or assert ourselves, and give in resentfully when we should not and or assert ourselves aggressively when it is unnecessary.

Now, who am I to offer advice on this? Well, let me tell you my story.

I lost the love of my life – my husband of 12 years and companion of 18 – to a sudden, massive heart attack in 2005. My child was just 6 at the time.

Though I had started building a business because of the financial problems we suffered during a downturn, I depended on my husband for everything related to my life – my finances, my social life… everything.

When he passed away, I was left with the considerable task of managing as a widow in a rather unsupportive society.

For those not in the know, Indian society is notorious for its condescending attitude towards widows, and for treating them with little more than pity and disdain.

In my journey to regain my shattered self-confidence and rebuild my life, I attracted people and situations that told me I desperately needed to build stronger boundaries and set limits on what I was willing to tolerate in my life.

I got remarried and then I got divorced after 8 years, having realized that I don’t really care for the rules of society anyway and that marriage is not an empowering way of living for a woman like me who loves her freedom and independence.

If you want to know more about what I think about this, the podcast on the “Brules” (or bullshit rules) that I discarded to become a much happier person will tell you more.

The biggest lesson in my life, though, was the realization that people treat you the way you allow yourself to be treated, and that your relationships with others are a reflection of the relationship you have with yourself.

THE RELATIONSHIP YOU HAVE WITH YOURSELF IS THE MOST IMPORTANT RELATIONSHIP IN YOUR LIFE.

The relationship you have with yourself is the most important relationship in your life.

Author bio:

Priya Florence Shah is the publisher of Naaree.com and the author of an emotional self-care book for women. In the book and online course, you’ll learn how to throw off the shackles of your own limiting beliefs, come into your power and design your destiny. 

Disclosure: This blog contains affiliate or sponsored links. For more information, read our disclosure.

Women’s Empowerment:

  1. Empower Yourself: Take Responsibility For Your Life
  2. 10 Tips From Louise Hay On Being An Empowered Woman
  3. 10 Pioneering Indian Women Who Became Role Models Of Empowerment
  4. Women Empowerment In India: Not There Yet, Nor Where We Used To Be
  5. 8 Great And Inspiring Women In The History Of Ancient India
  6. The 10 Most Powerful And Influential Women In The World
  7. Indian Women In Business: Shattering The Glass Ceiling And Beyond
  8. 12 Leadership Qualities And Skills To Help Women Leaders In India Succeed
  9. Brand YOU: 7 Benefits Of Creating A World-Class Personal Brand
  10. Famous Indian Women Leaders: Biocon’s Kiran Mazumdar-Shaw
  11. Naina Lal Kidwai’s Six Keys To Success: An Extract From Her Book, 30 Women In Power

Naaree Talk 5 - Seeta and Geeta

Comments

comments

Powered by Facebook Comments

Leave a Reply

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.