This personal development program will help you turn these 21 days into a life-affirming period of personal growth and help you recreate yourself and reinvent yourself to design a life you truly love.
While research suggests that it takes 21 days to break an old habit or form a new one, there’s a lot more you can use this time for. But it’s not what you DO with this time as much as who you BECOME as a result of it.
All through our lives, from the time we were children, we’ve been told that we must have a goal. Every one of us has been asked what we want to do when we grow up.
So we grow up believing that life is all about DOING, about getting somewhere, achieving something – getting a job, getting married, having kids.
Yes, of course, we must provide for ourselves and our families. But too many of us are stuck in some kind of rat race, living a life we feel the need to run away from. Hence the focus on weekends as a time to let down our hair and relax.
But what if that’s not what life is about? What if we could slow down enough to create a life we didn’t feel the need to run away from every weekend or vacation? I believe that we all have the chance to transform our perspective and change the way we live our lives.
A chance to slow down, contemplate our existence, re-examine our purpose, and if the life we live isn’t working for us, chart a new trajectory and design a new life we love.
21 Days To Recreate Yourself And Design A Life You Love
If you’re thinking ‘I want to change myself,’ this article will give you a personal development program to recreate yourself and change your life in 21 days, so you can design a life you truly love.
1. Become mindful of your thoughts
The first step to doing that is to assess your current situation and the way you live your life. And that starts with understanding the self.
Most people today live in a state of anxiety or dread about the future. That’s because they’re living their lives in a reactive mode, where they’re reacting to triggers and stressors in a fearful way.
But if you slow down and take the time to observe your reactions, you’ll realize that this is not how you want to be. In fact, you don’t need to live like this at all.
You can’t completely avoid negative news or people, but you can change the way you respond to them simply by becoming more self-aware of how you react to triggers and stress.
Observe your thoughts every time you come across something stressful and ask yourself why you’re reacting that way. This is called mindfulness and, like all habits, it takes practice.
Starting a personal mindfulness practice may be the most important step you can take to support your overall well-being and resilience in challenging and uncertain times.
Other practices you may want to start are restorative Yoga or Qigong practice to help you stay fit without leaving your home and meditation practice to help you feel calm and centred. All you need is 15 minutes of uninterrupted time and you don’t even have to leave the comfort of your own home.
And whenever you find yourself getting anxious about the state of the world, remember that you can’t control the world. You can only control the way you respond to it. So if you want to change the world, change yourself first.
2. Open to being vulnerable
A lot of our anxiety stems from our fear of being vulnerable and the belief that we can somehow control what happens in the world in order to feel more safe and secure.
Of course, the media and advertisers love to stoke our anxieties because it makes us more willing to buy whatever solutions they claim can make us feel more in control of our lives.
Believing that you can control the world around you is a huge egoic trap and it’s what keeps you hooked into the triggers and stressors that make you anxious and unhappy.
But what if you could learn to embrace the full spectrum of your experience with unconditional warmth, openness, and kindness?
What if you no longer “hated” being vulnerable and, instead of overwhelming you, your emotions became your teachers?
What if you chose gentle acceptance of yourself and others over harsh judgment? For many years I have followed the teachings of the Buddhist nun and spiritual teacher, Pema Chödrön.
In the Buddhist Contemplative Tradition, we are taught that our fundamental state of being is one where we are wide open, awake, and possess an immense capacity for love.
In the Living With Vulnerability Course, Ani Pema Chödrön teaches how to stay present to whatever arises in your mind, so you can begin to make just such a shift in thinking.
In this course, you’ll learn how to treat your own life experience with the same love and support you offer your truest friends.
And as you begin to unravel your habitual patterns — fear of vulnerability, aversion to discomfort, nagging self-criticism — you’ll open yourself up and experience your true nature filled with limitless potential.
3. Re-assess your life
Ask yourself these very important questions:
- Am I truly happy in the life that I am now living?
- If I could be doing anything in the world, is this what I would be doing?
If the answer is NO, ask yourself:
- What would I love to do if I had no constraints of time, money or other obligations?
Often, you’ll find that the answer is something you loved to do as a child. Perhaps you loved painting or theatre or any number of things.
Now ask yourself one more question:
- How can I integrate more of what brings me joy into my life today?
If you can’t find the answer to this last question, you may want to consider getting a life coach to help you answer it.
Or you can sign up for this free Conscious Manifestation webinar with the spiritual teacher, Eckhart Tolle, where he discusses how you can align your being with your doing in order to create something beautiful in the world.
4. Design a new vision for your life
The final step is to design a new life for yourself – a life that you no longer feel the need to run away from. To do this, you need to get clarity on the things that bring you joy so you can design a crystal-clear life vision of every aspect of your perfect life.
In the free Lifebook Masterclass, you’ll gain instant clarity on what you really want in life and discover a transformational 4-step goal achievement process that vaporizes your self-doubt and gives you a personalized game plan for living your ultimate life.
You’ll experience the ‘Instant Clarity’ exercise – a powerful visualization exercise that guides you through your ideal day – and gives you instant clarity on who you really are, and what kind of life you really want to be living.
In his book, Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life, Brian Tracy shows you how to delve into your inner resources so that you can not only identify realistic goals but also develop a plan on how to achieve these life goals.
I hope this personal development program will help you turn this period of forced isolation into a life-affirming period of personal growth so you can recreate yourself and reinvent yourself to design a life you truly love.
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Priya Florence Shah is the Group Editor at SHEROES and author of Devi2Diva, an emotional self-care book for women.
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