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Want To Heal Emotional Pain? Embrace Your Feelings

By Michael David Lawrience B. A., B. Com

What if, when we fully felt our feelings, they would turn into joy?

Sri Bhagavan of the Oneness University in India teaches any feeling or sensation experienced fully in the present moment will eventually transform into joy. This includes the most challenging situations or intense emotions.

Emotional HealingRobert Tennyson Stevens’ Conscious Language also says that any emotion fully felt will turn into its strength, grief into joy, fear into confidence, and pain into love.

When we stop resisting pain and surrender, Divine Grace can enter our bodies. Contraction ends and a flow of energy opens, allowing change. I have experienced this on occasion.

To allow this transformation involves a mastery of staying in the center of a feeling. It means neither going out of body nor drowning in the feeling.

We can understand the above experience better by seeing a surfer in the curve of a big wave, perfectly balanced on his board. He neither gets tossed up into the air nor does he get submerged under tons of water.

It is impossible to stop fear or pain in our lives. When, however, we learn to experience our emotions fully, we take charge of them.

When we practice staying present with whatever emotion or pain arises in our bodies and master this, we experience something different, inner stillness. We still have thoughts. Now, however, we accept them without resistance.

Sri Bhagavan calls this experience of inner stillness, bliss, calm, peace. I have felt this peace, for brief minutes, sitting with a group of people going about their activities.

According to Bhagavan with stillness no energy gets lost. Thus, we feel this stillness as calm. We have accepted the reality of our feelings. On the other hand, Bhagavan says when we resist our inner thoughts or feelings this fight uses a lot of energy and we experience pain, suffering, and conflict.

Would you like more joy in your life? Practice this meditation daily or at least when intense feelings come up.

The only way out is through, said the poet Robert Frost. The best way to handle our fears or any emotion is by:

1. Become aware of them. When we push them away they become stronger.
2. Accept your thoughts or feelings.
3. Focus on the sensations in your body, however vague.
4. Pick one sensation and stay focused on it.
5. Resist any desire to change what you feel. Allow it to be.
6. Sit and feel the sensations without doing anything to change them.
7. If you start to think about the past or future, come back to feeling the sensations in your body.
8. Stay with the sensation until it transforms on its own without you doing anything. This may take for example, 30 minutes, 3 days, 3 weeks, or 3 months. As you have time keep coming back to the sensation, feeling, or issue until it transforms.

Michael David LawrienceMichael David Lawrience is the author of Emotional Health: The Secret for Freedom from Drama, Trauma, & Pain coming to Amazon as a softcover in mid-June 2011. Michael is a certified Residential Coach III with over 13 years’ experience teaching teen’s self-awareness, self-esteem, and self-reliance. He has over 35 years’ experience as a holistic health practitioner with a B.A in Sacred Healing and has been a certified Bowenwork Practitioner since 2005. His niche is emotional health with extensive personal experience related to codependency recovery, strengthening self-esteem, healing the inner child, stress management, and meditation which he has practiced for over 40 years.

I hope you enjoyed this article with Michael and that you’ll check out his softcover book when it is ready at Amazon mid-June. You can 0rder other versions here now at and read FREE the 1st 50-pages of the book The Secret for Freedom from Drama, Trauma, & Pain.

Resources for Emotional Healing:

  • Working With and Healing Your Inner Child & Inner Adolescent – The happier your childhood, the less of a problem you’ll now have with your inner child. Conversely, the more pain you went through then, the more problems you’re likely to have now. These meditations can be the first step in going back and healing that childhood, and that adolescence. You get two complete visualization meditations. The first one guides you to meet and interact with your inner child. The second one guides you to similarly work with your inner adolescent.

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2 thoughts on “Want To Heal Emotional Pain? Embrace Your Feelings

  1. Thank you so very much for this lovely post. I do not want share my pain with the readers…All I can say is I’m learning to live with it….embracing the feelings! Thanks a lot.

  2. Mousumi; It isn’t necessary to share your pain with strangers. What is important that you learn to stay present with it as you feel it in your body. This takes much practice because we naturally do not want to feel the pain – it hurts. However it will continue to hurt until we keep feeling it for however long that takes and allow it to transform on its own without us doing or wanting to do anything to change it. When we enjoy a sensation we embrace it completely. We are asked to learn to do the same with pain.

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